Opinion: Seek to understand

Commentary by Jeff Worrell

In a world that often feels divided, one of the greatest challenges we face is how to treat people we don’t understand. Whether it’s a neighbor with different political views, a coworker from another culture, or a stranger whose life experiences differ from our own, the way we engage with others defines the strength of our community.

Civility isn’t about agreement — it’s about respect. It’s about recognizing that every person carries a story, shaped by experiences we may never fully grasp. Instead of dismissing or judging, we can choose curiosity. Ask questions. Listen without interrupting. Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.

When we encounter someone whose perspective challenges our own, the instinct may be to argue or withdraw. But what if, instead, we approached them with kindness? A simple “Tell me more” can open doors to meaningful conversations.

Carmel thrives because of its people — people who care, who contribute, who make this city a place worth calling home. Civility is the glue that holds us together. So, the next time you meet someone you don’t understand, pause. Listen. Respect. Because in the end, the strength of our community is measured not by how much we agree, but by how civilly we can disagree.