Opinion: Forgive and forget

Commentary by Jeff Worrell

Carmel is a city known for strong values — hard work, kindness, respect and community spirit. But in any community, disagreements happen. The good news? Science tells us that forgiveness isn’t just good for the soul; it’s good for our relationships, our health and even the strength of our city.

Research shows that when we hold onto resentment, our bodies and minds suffer. Stress levels rise, blood pressure spikes and we stay stuck in cycles of negativity. But when we forgive, something powerful happens. Our brains shift from stress mode to problem-solving mode, allowing us to think clearly, communicate better and build stronger relationships. In other words, forgiveness makes us better neighbors, coworkers and friends.

Here in Carmel, we thrive when we work together. Whether it’s a debate over city projects or a stressful conversation with a neighbor about a barking dog, choosing forgiveness helps us move forward and get past it. It allows us to replace anger with understanding and create unity from division. And when we do that, we create a culture of civility — one where respect, dialogue and community spirit win the day.

Maybe easier said than done, but can we look for opportunities to forgive and forget? Not just for ourselves, but for the future of our great city. After all, Carmel is at its best when we address the issue and turn the other cheek.