Opinion: Be skeptical, not cynical

Commentary by Jeff Worrell 

In a world brimming with conflicting opinions, exaggerated claims and shifting narratives, a bit of skepticism is not only useful — it’s necessary.

Questioning what we hear, looking for evidence and avoiding blind acceptance helps keep us informed and discerning. But skepticism has a dangerous cousin: cynicism. And when cynicism takes hold, it does more than sharpen our skepticism — it dulls our ability to trust, connect and engage meaningfully with others.

My friend Tom is the perfect example of a healthy skeptic. We joke that he questions just about everything, but his skepticism isn’t rooted in negativity or distrust. Instead, he’s mastered the art of “trust but verify.” He listens, considers and evaluates before making up his mind. Because of that, he rarely falls for misinformation or empty rhetoric, but he also doesn’t let doubt close him off from people or ideas.

Cynicism whispers that goodwill is a façade, that kindness hides ulterior motives and that every offer of collaboration is just another scheme. When we start to see the world this way, relationships suffer. We stop listening, stop believing and stop extending grace. Civility — the glue of a healthy society — begins to unravel.

So, here’s the challenge: Be skeptical, but not closed off. Question, but stay willing to hear an answer. Demand honesty but recognize sincerity. Civility thrives when skepticism is tempered with openness, when we allow for the possibility that others act in good faith, and that trust, once cautiously earned, is worth keeping.

The world isn’t perfect, but neither is it irredeemably broken. So, let skepticism sharpen your mind, but let openness keep your heart intact. When we find the balance between healthy skepticism and openness, we take a step toward building something greater: a Civility City, where trust is earned, conversations are productive and our differences become strengths instead of divisions.